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Things Perfectionists Need to Remember



You don’t have to have your shit together.

No really. Say it with me: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER. I always felt incredible pressure when I was in high school. What was I going to do with my life? I constantly felt behind. Because I didn’t have all the answers. Guess what? I still don’t. And that is okay. I still don’t know what I’m going to do with my life at 24 years old, and I’m learning to embrace that. I own the fact that I’m indecisive and impulsive. I thrive on my desire to try new and different things. There is something incredibly freeing about not having it all together, and not knowing what comes next.

Your current situation is not your final destination.

Did I see this on Tumblr? I sure did. But it doesn’t make it any less true. EVERYONE has bad days. If they tell you they don’t, they are lying. Sometimes, there is a long stretch of bad days, maybe months. Sometimes your situation sucks, and you feel like it is always going to suck, but I promise you it won’t. It will take a fair bit of work to pull yourself out of the bad days and to see past your current troubles. Picture your life the way you want it to be, and take steps every day in the direction of where you want to be.

Relationships are not perfect.

This one is hard. It is hard to admit to yourself that friends fight, that relationships don’t go as planned, that the perfect love that you always pictured in your head isn’t living up to your real life beau. I am a perfectionist, and for me it is the hardest thing to take a step back and say “this is a good relationship even though it isn’t exactly how you pictured/want it”. I’m not encouraging anyone to settle, whether it be a friendship or a romantic relationship. I’m encouraging you to be open minded, and to realize that no one can read your mind, you only get what you have the courage to ask for, and sometimes you have to throw expectations right out the 30 storey window.

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